The modern woman is often revealed to be a mix of New Age self-improvement philosophy, bits and pieces of a fractured sense of feminism left over from our mothers’ generation, an undercurrent of bitterness over realizing that Disney dreams are a fraud, and an ever-increasing capacity to take care of ourselves without a man, that is both empowering and crippling.
“Force of Nature Girl” (FNG), to me, means a woman that is seeking her own alignment with her purpose and is working on being awake in all she does in life.
So how do you date a woman like this? Oh well, you don’t just date an FNG… no, no, you embrace challenge of the learning curve that will allow you to ride the wave that is her raw wildness. You must agree within yourself that you will meet her ever-changing weather pattern as it shifts and flows. If you want to get close to an FNG you had best be prepared for and value the raucous journey she offers.
You had better look alive, move thoughtfully and be internally-referenced from a deep place, as equally integrated as she has worked to be.
You must move into a strong alignment with who you are before you should ever, ever try to approach this woman and expect to be given serious consideration. She has no time or energy for men that show up less than her, less clear of his sense of personal direction, than she is about hers.
As if an epic journey of self-discovery wasn’t enough to have to embark upon, it is highly recommended by the wise men before you and at the demand of the task ahead, that you dig in and study up for this trip.
Here are the Big 3 you ought to get your head and heart around before you attempt to get closer to a Force of Nature Girl.
1. Ditch your concern that she is doing what every other girl you ever met has been socialized to do… manipulate you into commitment.
While it’s true that a woman does choose her involvement with a man, it is still the man that must define her status with him. Will he be conscious about this, or socially programmed about this? Make no mistake, a FNG will ONLY consider a man that seeks consciousness around his role in her life and is pro-active about defining her place in his.
This can be done the outdated and diseased way, by giving her a sense of her status with you through tokens. You know, things like adopting a puppy together, sharing keys to each other’s apartments, getting a ring on her finger, going house-hunting, having a baby…. OR, you can level up to the way a FNG is seeking your commitment. She is looking for a commitment to bring a depth of presence (high quality attentiveness/consciousness) to all he does, not bringing her stuff and traditional tokens of commitment.
Sharing of resources can only happen with a FNG after a commitment to presence has been established.
She desires REAL commitment and a man who knows what the fuck she means by that, instead of being triggered and frightened off, assuming she wants the traditional crap. She has little patience for a man who keeps forgetting she is a goddamn force of nature, NOT a basic babe.
Commitment in relationship with a FNG may look like two text messages a week, one hour of talk and super-charged sex, or it may mean throwing caution to the wind and living in together after only knowing each other two weeks, or it may mean unpacking who you are with each other over years and years with no goal of buying a wedding dress in sight.
She is not willing to accept tokens as a substitute for your leadership. She cannot! Your loving leadership is required to be a guidance system for a powerful storm-front of passion to be useful and not destructive. It isn’t even so much that SHE requires it as the task ahead requires it, the privilege of helping her open to more of herself than she can on her own, without you.
THIS turns ALL the power on for a Force of Nature Girl. THIS is her reason to have a man in her world, inside her body. THIS is the potency this FNG’s man seeks to engage.
2. Get your head around the idea that sex for her isn’t about what you think it is. It is isn’t what you read in some book about “she comes first”.
This well-intentioned shift in how men showed up with women sexually ended up becoming yet another way for externally-referenced men to shut a woman down. It became a new way for men to relate to women with excessive neediness to gain her approval that seemed endorsed by the powers-that-be of the time. This “sexual revolution” way of doing sex reduced men to developing a dependency on a visual confirmation of her pleasure and needing her permission so he could get off. Nothing is less appealing to a wild, conscious woman.
This was an improvement over just getting on and humping in a disconnected way, but not by much. This has left us with a currently accepted norm for sex that is really not that much elevated from the act than jerking off while watching porn.
Force of Nature Girl knows and needs more!
She requires what is next sexually!
In order to date or stay married to this girl, you may need to look honestly at the FACT that what sex actually IS and what it is for on a base REAL level has something to do with pro-creation, but not in just the baby-making expression of that notion. Pro (positive) Creation (creative expression) is, at its core essence, a woman taking in a man’s tensions and converting that into something clear and useful. She transmutes it so it is cleaned and free of the post-traumatic collection of experiences from his day.
It is just what we do as a human with a female body. Our primal nature WILL run whether it is honored or not, but an FNG knows how much better it is when her nature is given its due. Oh, so very much better.
Our body knows and it is doing this even if both parties are unaware of it. FNG is conscious and educated about this, and requires a man who knows this to some extent and is excited to learn more of this with her.
Sex, for her body, is about taking your war-filled fuck energy, processing it and giving it back to you as life force. She returns to you something useful from your deposit of stress. Sometimes that is in the form of an actual new human that will help you run the farm someday, and sometimes it is a lifting of your burdens so your perspective can shift around an innovation that boosts your career. Her womb already knows how to bring life to a man’s purpose, on automatic pilot.
So this Force of Nature thing is a pretty big fucking deal, right?
She certainly knows the value of what she is bringing to him. She treats it with a level of reverence beyond his well-intentioned, yet misguided, sexual niceness, that is focused on making sure she gets off in one messily clitoral climax.
She requires more. She knows a great connection requires more and she owns it. She won’t settle for less. Tell me, why would this girl be with a man that doesn’t know or want to know these things?
3. You had better find a way to feel free that isn’t dependent on her for your inspiration and motivation.
Force of Nature Girl is truly liberated and uninhibited. She intends to stay that way and seeks to open even more. She loves to be a muse for a man that shows up already open and capable of receiving what she desires to unleash.
She will not choose a shut-down, inhibited man unless she is taking him on as a personal project, as a donation to him and the world, or to coach him for hire. It is draining on her to be around closed people, especially inhibited men. She will do her best to avoid men that are not well on their way on a sincere quest to be free men themselves. She will seek out and help along a man interested in creating a lifestyle that ever-expands his capacity to help women stay wild and free. He is clear; this is a gift men uniquely bring to the world.
She can tell which men are seeking real openness and which men are play-acting to get laid. She can feel into which men are super-closed and will need more help than she can offer to get up to her level of openness.
She has her female superpower of being intuitive dialed UP and has no fear about calling out bullshit. She doesn’t need a man to survive, so why in the world would she be motivated to hang with shut-down men and put up with bullshit? Show up real with an FNG, or show up ready to grow exponentially FAST, or get the fuck away from her. Simple.
I hope this has freaked you the fuck out and scared the shit out of you; not to dissuade you from pursuing a wild FNG (God knows there are not enough men able and willing to as it is), but to encourage you to expand yourself so you can have as many options in the company you keep with women, as you desire.
I will help you. You can start here right now with material that applies to every woman you ever met or will meet, but you most likely have never been taught… YET!
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